The Firsts

Firsts are hardests

Everyone warns you

Trying to prepare 

You

For

The

Washing

Sorrow


Birthday

Holiday

Winter

Spring

Summer

Fall


Garden

Phone call

Puppies

Pregnancy

Birth


All without

An after

Just Life


Before is Past

After is Now

And now is beautiful

Even

Hearing your excitment

Watching crinkles frame

eyes alight and dancing

Echos in my mind

Unformed

Indistinct


This weight

The After

Wishing

You

Were

Still

Now

First




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